Even if you think you're as hard as a rock and can tell the difference between fact and glamorized fiction, I'd like to bet a majority of moviegoers out there have caught themselves comparing a moment or even their entire relationship to one in a film. Why can't I magically be paired up with the right guy like in The Holiday? Why won't my man serenade me like Robbie Hart in The Wedding Singer? Why didn't my peers break out into a perfectly coordinated dance during prom like in She's All That? Okay, maybe not that last one, but seeing something you really wish could happen to you on the big screen certainly takes a toll.
This isn't even an obsessive fan trend. It's not like a teenage girl who has Zac Efron's face plastered all over her walls with her fingers crossed that one day they'll get married and live happily ever after; this issue is more subconscious. By simply watching something and thinking that it's sweet, sticks with you. Before you know it, the fact that you haven't come out of your Josie Grossie shell and had your dream guy give you your first kiss in front of hundreds of people a la Never Been Kissed is a bit disheartening.
And this isn't only a female-centric problem. What about the guys out there wondering why they can't be the nerd with the hottie like Jay Baruchel in She's Out of My League? Then there are the ones with their fingers crossed that their desperate and beautiful boss will choose them in her attempt to avoid deportation and then they'll fall madly in love like in The Proposal. These things don't really happen, but that doesn't mean moviegoers don't wish they could and before they know it, that harbored wish turns into a feeling that makes them believe what they have, just isn't good enough.
The thing is, there's really no getting rid of this problem unless someone wipes out the genre entirely. Unlike romantic dramas, which tend to be a little grittier and make some sort of a serious point, romcoms are there for sheer entertainment. Nobody would be happy if they walked out of a film like There's Something About Mary and Mary actually stuck with Brett Favre and ditched Ted altogether. It's just got to be about keeping everything in perspective. If romantic comedies are your thing, you've must train yourself to separate them from real life. There's no keeping concepts from subliminally sneaking in, but as long as you don't let them fester into an unrealistic concept, your relationship should be safe.